About Scott Alvord
This is where you can find some personal stuff about me. THIS IS UNDER CONSTRUCTION
About Scott Alvord
Still unfinished (in many ways!)
Until I finish this page, I'll remain a little nervous about it. I want it to be nice but I tend to get vulnerable, and I don't want to regret sharing details about my personal life. However, if I get hit by a truck tomorrow, I'd like my family and friends to have a place to remember some details of my life. Yup...pretty nervous about what I'm ultimately going to put here.
Who am I?
I am complicated. I am a deep introvert and often force myself to act like an extrovert. I carry baggage from various experiences, and while it sometimes weighs me down, it also sometimes gives me strength. Like I said...complicated. Here are a few brief points that highlight who I am:
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- Husband, father, grandfather. These are proud titles that I carry in our very large family. I have remained faithful to my wife, helped raise our 7 children into adulthood, and watched 14 grandchildren come into our family. A lot of what I do in my life is, in my mind, to set an example for them and make them proud. I am also a son, brother, uncle, cousin, and nephew.
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- Public Servant. It started in Boy Scouts, sprouted in college, and grew within the churches I attended. When we opened a restaurant downtown, it matured and culminated in elected office. I know in my heart that I will serve others until I'm no longer capable. It brings me joy, and the Woodrow Wilson quote on this website summarizes my belief that we exist to serve others and make the world a better place for all, not just for ourselves.
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- Spiritual. I have deep convictions based on my own study, miracles I've witnessed, and a voice in my heart that reminds me that my Creator loves us all. Other than raising my children in the church and giving Bible studies to my girlfriend before we married, I generally do not push my beliefs on others, but am willing to teach or discuss. I truly try to understand and accept where others are in their journeys and their own religious beliefs. But my own beliefs are strong. I'm far from perfect, and that helps me remember the importance of a Savior. I find it interesting that, as a "politician," many people made wild assumptions about what I believe and don't believe. Maybe I should wear it on my sleeve more often, but then I think I would be less effective in serving others.
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- Experienced. When I look back or even scroll around on this website, it truly amazes me that I have had so many incredible experiences and blessings that I did not deserve, but sincerely appreciate. I have repeatedly told my family that I could have died a long time ago and still would have lived the life experiences of two, three, or five men. What an incredible journey! Many of these lifetime experiences stem from raising my hand and volunteering to do something. Even the harsh and painful experiences were, in a weird way, a gift that helped me be better at something or help someone else get through a difficult time.
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- Author/Educator/Trainer/Speaker. Probably being the oldest child, father of seven, and having a massive number of experiences gave me the urge to share them with others. I find joy in inspiring others. That led me to write books, teach at the university level, write articles, share information with my neighbors and fellow residents, and speak on stages all over the place.
Biography
Here's a link to my biography. There are both shorter and longer versions in this file.
In the Beginning
This explains my full name, my parents, and siblings.
I was born as Raymond Scott Alvord and was raised as "Scott" because my dad's first name was Raymond too. Scottie when I was very young or in the vicinity of a grandparent...or being teased by someone.
Because there are several Scott Alvords in the world, I often abbreviate my formal stuff (e.g., book author titles) as "R. Scott Alvord"
I'm at the tail end of the Baby Boomers cohort. Yeah, I have experienced party lines, 8-tracks, phone booths, and drinking from a garden hose made of asbestos.
I was the oldest of four children to Sharon and Ray. I was born in Northern California as was my oldest sister. I believe I was conceived when my father climbed through a bedroom window and got frisky with my mother who lived with her parents. She gave birth to me in January, not long after JFK was assassinated (she was at an OB appointment when she heard the news). She was 20 when I was born. One of my grandparents encouraged her to have an abortion but she decided to stick it out and my father decided to stick with her, thankfully.
My parents - We had a low/middle working-class family and because Dad was military, we were stationed in California, Colorado, Montana, and Wisconsin. Us kids got used to being the "new kid" in many different schools as we moved around.
Mom was a full-time mother and we never felt unloved or unsupported. All our neighbors loved her. She was an amazing mom. Us four kids were a handful and she resorted to using a wooden spoon at times (it was rare, but it did happen a few times) when we refused to be respectful. Funny, I remember hiding several of those wooden spoons in the garbage can over those years, and she eventually gave up swatting me when I refused to cry and laughed instead. She mentioned several times that she feels bad about using a spoon but I have NO regrets that she did because we really were a handful, and she was often a single parent. She loved Elvis Presley and soap operas and had a growing spirituality as she aged. She currently lives in Oregon. Her family tree is huge.
Dad retired as an Air Force Tech Sgt who was often on tour overseas when I was younger. He often worked as an auto mechanic on the side and was always on a stock car team. He even drove the car a few times (I remember watching him race in Wisconsin). Dad had his own childhood demons and honestly wasn't a very kind or loving father, especially after he was diagnosed with leukemia in the late 70's (he went into remission and it never came back). He was very tough on me, and I don't remember him ever saying "I love you" until about a decade before he died, when he became more personable. He didn't respect his marriage, and both eventually married someone else when I was in college. He passed in 2017 from emphysema and cancer. He was always wonderful to neighbors, helping repair their cars and helping with their remodeling projects, etc. His family tree is also huge, rich in history with American Indian heritage, and lineage going back to the Mayflower and King Charles II.
My siblings are pretty cool. Two retired as Master Sergeants in the United States Air Force and one is/was a lifelong nurse. One is an air traffic controller for a private airfield, and another is a historian. I have three nieces and two nephews from them.

My Childhood
This is a lot of material so I broke it up into dropdown sections so you didn't have to scroll through pages and pages of stuff. Honestly, this section is more of a diary for my family since my children and grandchildren probably didn't know most of this history. It was fun writing though because it brought back memories I forgot I had.
Enjoy the few surprises in the sections below.
My earliest memory was being bounced on my mother's lap on the edge of a bed while she sang, "Daddy's little man, daddy's little man. Daddy's little little man." ...kinda a weird memory but as an adult, when I described the wallpaper and curtains, my mom said there was only one place we lived with that decor and it was when I was an infant, probably 6 months old when we lived there. She and I both forget where it was now.
I attended Kindergarten in Tomah, Wisconsin. I rode the bus! I have a photo that the bus driver took of me next to the bus, jumping up off the ground. I had dress shoes on, neatly combed hair, and a buttoned shirt, slacks, and belt. I used to get home sometimes when no one was home (or mom was sleeping) and I made a ketchup and mustard sandwich then sat down and played with Hotwheels on a race track made out of playing cards (remember that my dad was into stock car racing) while watching Perry Mason on TV. We also had a party line phone where I remember secretly listen to neighbors gossiping at least a few times.
We had a tornado one time which knocked down some trees. In the winter, we sled down a small double bump hill next to our house towards a small creek at the bottom. I remember mosquitoes in the summer and visiting a dairy farm next door. At the dairy farm, I distinctly remembering a farmer running hose water into a large milk tank to add volume to the milk!...I knew it was wrong back then, and for some reason, that memory really stuck with me! I learned to ride a bike in Wisconsin and I think I taught my sister to ride too.
I attended first grade and part of second grade at Foothills Elementary School in Deer Park, CA. It was a private school and I remember falling in love with a girl named Dolly, my first kiss ...followed by a quick wiping of germs off our lips! I have memories of playing on the playground (which looks tiny now but was huge in my memory), eating lunch, sitting in class, and riding in various cars down the windy road to St. Helena where I lived at the time (a downstairs portion of grandma Vonnie's house. We also lived in a home near her home that we rented on Fawn Park from missionaries who were overseas.
Thanks to the USAF...again...we had to then move to Aurora, CO.
I attended Sixth Avenue Elementary School in Aurora, CO for the rest of 2nd grade through 6th grade. I remember the playground well. During winters, we loved to play "dogpile" by running down the sidewalk outside the classrooms and sliding on ice into a pile of students.
Tackle football was also a big part of our play during the summer, and our favorite was a game that involved throwing a football into the air and whoever caught it was the target and everyone else had to try to tackle that person. It was a good way to learn how to dodge and juke to avoid being tackled, and if you got cornered, you could throw the ball into the air again before getting tackled, but the tough ones ran until we got caught. I hesitate to repeat the name of this game ("smear the queer") but at the time when I was a child, we didn't know what "queer" meant other than the person running with the football. I now have family members and good friends who are gay, and I certainly wouldn't think this was an appropriate name today, so please forgive me for stating the name from the 70's.
We got hurt all the time during recess, but it was a normal part of playing. Parents and schools would never allow that kind of roughhousing nowadays.
Teachers had very few rules, but I do remember that for the first few years there, we could get swatted with a paddle in the classroom when students were really out of hand. We had "turf" during recess, and I was part of a group of about six students that "owned" the small slide during recess and no one could slide without our consent, which we always gave to the older or tougher kids...heck, they didn't even have to ask us! We called ourselves the "Witchypoo Gang" and I don't remember any details other than we always laughed at our "gang" name. I don't think we were very tough in anyone's eyes but our own, and I was a "member" just because I wanted to be able to slide without being hassled.
Besides athletic events, I think I won a yo-yo trick competition at the school as well as a national presidential fitness award that anyone could win if they were able to do a certain number of situps, pullups, pushups, and a few other things within the limits set. I received a special presidential patch, and I remember standing on a stage with about 5 other students when I received it.
I was a big plastic model builder (mostly cars) during this time, and at one point, I supposedly owned 102 models. It's funny because while I did have a ton of models at home (in drawers and boxes at the top of the closet), I can't imagine it being nearly that many so I must have counted little figures and items that were not part of the main model too. But I have always said I had 102 models, so who knows at this point.
I had to deal with a bully. I remember walking home from school, and whenever this boy who lived a few blocks over would find me after school, he would punch me and run away. I was afraid of him and was pretty stressed out after school, trying to avoid crossing his path. My dad told me that I needed to walk up to him and punch him as hard as I could, and even if he hurt me after that, he would leave me alone. I was too afraid to do it until I finally had enough of this kid's abuse. After he hit me one time and ran. I followed him. When I caught up to him, I hauled off and hit him as hard as I could right in the face...and then ran home. It worked! He never bothered me again.
Then I was at East Middle School for 7th & 8th grade. This was a big change for me since the 8th graders looked grown up, especially in the large walk-through showers we were all forced to go through together...embarrassing. I stuck to my small group of friends who were mostly athletes too, although I can't remember many.
Dealing with a thief - I do remember a boy who always stole food out of my lunch from my gym locker (we didn't have locks). My dad helped me a second time by helping me make a cupcake with melted Chocolate Exlax as frosting. I left it for the thief and after he stole it and ate it, I told him what was about to happen to him. He never stole from me again! I felt bad about doing that to him later but it certainly solved a problem as I'm sure he was "moved" to avoid eating my food ever again.
I learned photography and darkroom skills at this school. I had a very tall girlfriend (Terry F) at this school, and we held hands and even kissed on occasion. We were both pretty innocent though. She ended up going to a different high school though, so I lost touch with her after 8th grade. However, she somehow ended up on vacation in Napa later, when I was dating Karen in college and somehow tracked me down and called my house. Mom answered, and when she wanted to leave her number and asked if I could call her back, my mom said "No" because I was in a serious relationship. Mom really liked Karen and wasn't about to let a blast from the past mess anything up.
I was a pretty good ventriloquist, performing in many school talent shows. I was pretty good...really. While in middle school (I think) I won 2nd place in a statewide talent show at the big Buckingham Square mall in Aurora, Colorado (it existed 1971-2007 before being torn down). I received a large, fancy triple red ribbon for it. I remember being nervous and that the first-place winner was a lady with a beautiful singing voice. Mom took me, as Dad never attended any of my performances. My idol at the time was Edgar Bergen who had a dummy named "Mortimer Snerd." I received a Mortimer dummy for a birthday or Christmas when I was younger, along with a record of Bergen who taught how to be a ventriloquist. I named my dummy Roger, which was easier to say than Mortimer without moving my lips. I blame Karen for not continuing this talent because she saw some horror movie with a doll that came to life when she was younger, and Roger kinda freaked her out and she never liked it when I brought him out to perform.
I attended Hinkley High School (Aurora, CO) for 9th-11th grade. I took advanced placement courses and have many stories of an alcoholic teacher, a massive food fight, placing a hundred real estate For Sale signs on the front lawn of the school, and talent shows. I was in the wrong crowd at this school and in my neighborhood. We weren't druggies but my friends had issues at home and they were wild and crazy because of it.
I was a good kid with some bad influences. I chewed tobacco for less than a year until a mouth sore made me realize this was stupid, and being healthy was smarter than being cool.
My hormones were kicking in and, luckily, I was super shy around girls, so my multiple romantic situations and a few opportunities didn't turn into big regrets. I think I was also afraid my dad would catch me going to a party...and oh my, how some of the parties my friends attended would have likely changed the course of my life.
Memories of Hinkley High centered mostly around sports and homework.
I worked at Burger King because I passed the test the manager had for me. He asked me to sweep the entire parking lot using a regular broom and dustpan and without a uniform, just my street clothes. It was a HUGE undertaking and took me at least an hour, and was embarrassing as classmates walked in or came through the drive-thru. But I was told that several had quit before me, and since I completed the test, I was hired. It was a fun job, and I was very responsible and did my work, unlike many coworkers who sloughed off. It gave me money so I could save and buy things I wanted that wouldn't come otherwise.
During this time, my dad sold two Chevy GTOs ("GOATs") he owned - One that was super sporty and fast (chromed engine, cherry bomb mufflers, upgraded everything) and the other that ran but was mostly a side project. He had leukemia and after being the first cancer patient testing the drug, daunomycin, when it was accidentally infiltrated through his vein and into the tissue of his forearm, it ate away at the tissue so bad that we could see his bones through the wound and he had to have multiple skin graphs to cover the very large hole. Although he got the use of his arm again over the years, he initially thought he would never be able to shift again, so he sold the two sports cars out of depression, almost giving them away for a very low price, instead of saving one for me. I knew he'd never let me drive one anyway, and it was probably good that I didn't have that kind of speed.
Because of sports, I lettered at Hinkley High and have the big "H" patch somewhere.
At the end of my Junior year, the family decided to move to Napa, CA to be near Mom's family because we weren't sure when Dad's leukemia would come back (he was medically retired from the USAF) and Mom wanted to be with her extended family. We were all excited but I wanted to wait to finish my senior year at Hinkley High. We moved. I hated going to a new school but was excited to live in Napa Valley again because, in my mind, it felt like home.
I attended Vintage High in Napa, CA for 12th grade, my senior year. It was really hard being at a new school for my senior year when all my classmates were close friends already. I generally felt like an outsider, but sports (Soccer and Track & Field) helped me fit in with a few friends. I "lettered" at Vintage too, and have a big "V" patch somewhere in a box. It's funny, though, because while I had the big letter patches, I could never afford to buy the cool sports jacket that went with them. So I just had the patches sitting on my shelf somewhere.
I was still pretty shy in high school. As mentioned elsewhere, I also fell in love with computer programming there, and it changed my career choice. It was easy to go to the computer room after I ate lunch or before/after school so my social life was a bit limited.
I did notice that Vintage was a LOT easier (academically) than Hinkley back in Colorado. I worked hard for good grades at Hinkley, and the competition was steep. At Vintage, classes seemed very easy, and I rarely had to do much significant studying because my classmates seemed far behind. I got A's easily and was usually at the top of each of my classes at Vintage.
Karen went to Vintage and even used to come to watch my varsity soccer games because there were a few boys she liked on the team. But we never knew or noticed each other, and she never even knew I played on the team until I met her the summer after I graduated.
I was a good athlete from childhood. I could run fast, could throw far, and had good balance and coordination. My genetic testing later reported that I have athletic muscle tissue genetics and I did seem to do better than most at almost any sport.
In early elementary school, I started winning blue ribbons at all kinds of annual athletic events and over the years, I had accumulated a bunch of ribbons. I recall always being the best in my grade at the softball throw (distance), 50-yard dash, high jump, long jump, and the 3-legged race where a buddy (Andrew?) and I had the exact same sprinting extension and we figured out we could literally run full speed and stay in step. We easily won every year.
I took gymnastics in 6th grade and was hooked. I think I enjoyed being able to do things well that most couldn't do very well. I think it helped me feel special inside, which makes sense given my childhood, where my father repeatedly told me I wouldn't amount to anything. If proving him wrong was part of my psychology, then he was a big boost without me even realizing it at the time.
I saved money and bought a skateboard. I learned to do some cool tricks on it. The best trick was being able to ride it in a handstand for long distances. I have a scar on my right forearm from a very deep slice after falling onto something in my garage while practicing the handstand trick. Again, none of my friends were ever able to do this, so it's kinda cool knowing I could. When I was 52 years old, I practiced doing handstands for a few weeks before I did it one last time as part of a "Dancing with the Stars"-type fundraiser event. Here's the video...
I took wrestling in 7th grade and was pretty good. I learned a few basic elements and when I took a Judo class in 8th grade, I learned to fall safely, block punches, dive roll over a dozen students kneeling on all fours, and my Judo teacher taught me how to run up the side of a wall at an angle so my feet got as high as a basketball hoop!...sounds weird but I could really do it and it was really cool. Gymnastics and Judo taught my body coordination, and that ability helped me have an advantage the rest of my life.
I competed in gymnastics in high school through my junior year and was pretty good but not the best. I learned how to pole vault in middle school and did really well in high school in our region with my consistent 11'6" vaults (or higher), often clearing them by more than a foot, but then mentally failing at 12' quite often...it was an interesting mental wall. I went to the state semifinals my senior year at Vintage for the triple jump...I think. I was an excellent triple jumper (I recall the 45' range but it might have been 42'...I can't find my results online), and my best high jump was 6'0". I was substituted in for the 400m relay race only one time when someone was sick, and we set a school record. The coach's son was on the team that held the old record, and although he kept promising me to update the wall with our new record, he never did. But I knew we had the record, so that was satisfying.
At Pacific Union College, I joined the performing gymnastics team, Gymnasts for Christ. It was an incredible group of athletes, and the two coaches we had over the 4 years I performed did a great job of orchestrating awesome shows all over the West Coast. My best talents were being able to do an Arabian double front flip (roundoff, half-twisting double front), a full-twisting back layout, a standing front flip, pretty good handstands, and I was really good on the mini-tramp, where I could do all kinds of things, including an easy double front flip. For my last home performance show, I wanted to do a triple front flip, which had never been done at our college before. I finally went for it in practice and landed it well but a little stiff, so I decided that in the home performance, I'd not go quite as high so I could land it more easily. As I landed it with my feet down, I was still mostly in a tuck position, and my head then shot down between my knees, resulting in two compression fractures in my spine. I was in a back brace for 6 months. I was married at that time (I had already graduated but came back, only taking the gymnastics team "course" during Karen's senior year) and was voted by the team as the team captain. Luckily, it was my last show, but I remember lying in bed weeks later, in pain, and Karen sarcastically asking, "Was it worth it?" I recall saying, "Yes! I was the only person to complete a triple front flip, and I did it twice!" I chuckle now, thinking how I would likely regret this when I'm much older and know that it was not worth it, but it was funny thinking how dumb I was as a very young man.
When I worked at Adventist Health, I was big into softball and played on their team for many years, and eventually was the team manager. I was a pretty good batter who could place hit to right field (where the weakest player was often placed), and I played first base and sometimes second base. My two older sons were bat boys at times. I was also a good racketball player (AH had a court) and organized a few corporate tournaments along with Walleyball (volleyball using walls in the racketball court).
Mom put me in Cub Scouts at school and I loved it. Our family never went on vacations and I had never experienced camping, hiking, archery, black powder guns, and other skills, so this was an awesome experience for me. I graduated to Webelows and then to Boy Scouts.
I remember being a "Life" scout, working on my Eagle rank when I had to leave scouting. However, the benefits I received from scouting were life-changing. Above all, I learned to serve others. Because of the stress going on with my father, this was a place where I had good male role models who encouraged and taught me skills and a lot of ethics and doing the right thing even when others weren't looking. I discovered that my life experienced joy when I helped others. As an elected, I spent a lot of time with scouts (girls too) as they repeatedly interviewed me for their merit badges and honors, and I proudly attended many Eagle Courts of Honor.
I have repeatedly said that I became a city council member because of things I learned as a scout.
I was an introvert and I loved technical things. When Dad was overseas, I learned to fix our lawn mower, bicycles, and toys. I was on a chess team at school but loved a "stamp club" (philatelics) I was in because the teacher made it interesting. I collected stamps since childhood and while I don't anymore, I have some pretty cool stamps stored away safely. I designed an Olympic stamp in a statewide contest (Colorado) and won an award for the design.
I studied electronics and had a cool electronics experiment board as well as a chemistry set with an experiment manual. I enjoyed learning.
When I took a computer programming class my senior year of high school, I immediately fell in love with computers! I loved programming and because I had just moved from Colorado to Napa, CA, I was new at the school so I had few friends, and hanging out in the computer lab during lunch and after school when there weren't sports was a regular habit. I wrote all kinds of cool programs on an Apple IIe and Commodore 24, including a few games my classmates loved to play. The games I recall they liked the most were Dragon's Lair (I used the name long before the big video game used it), and Below the Pelico (which I enhanced significantly after college).
Lightbulbs came on in my Physics class too. How things worked started making sense. I won a few science awards including a national science merit award for an experiment I designed to fly aboard the Space Shuttle. It never flew, but I did a good job designing the experiment, and my teacher helped submit it.
My Family
The story of getting married and having children is truly miraculous and I'm only going to touch on it here. Partly for their privacy and partly for space because it could fill a book.
As you can tell throughout this website, I have been blessed far beyond anything I deserve. But my wife and children are, by far, the greatest joy and value in my life.
I met this girl at my friend's house during the summer after I graduated from Vintage High School in 1982. I was immediately attracted to her and it was probably the second time in my life that I felt a very real voice inside me talk to me (I believe it was spiritual but I'm not psycho...even though it sounds like it). The voice told me that this was who I would eventually marry. Honestly, I wasn't thrilled with that voice because I didn't think she was my type. Later that summer, she felt like I wasn't her type either.
Isn't it funny how humans make plans and God laughs? Yeah, this surprised us both.
I invited her to come visit my family at a holiday party, and because of that, I think we both figured out that dating should be our next step. We dated in December 1982 and were officially going steady on January 1st, 1983. We dated all through college and got married two weeks after I graduated in 1986, and we lived in married student housing until she graduated a year later.
During college, we both were excellent students, although I noticed that when we took a class together, she could study a lot faster and finish tests a lot faster than I could. Classes always came first in our relationship. I was on the performing gymnastics team, so my schedule was pretty busy. She often traveled with our team. Our dates were often hikes and picnics, and occasionally going out to an affordable dinner (I was very poor during college, so going out was a big deal). We did a lot with the youth group at our church. We were romantic, but we decided to save the really good stuff for our honeymoon.
Proposal
To make it memorable, I decided to propose to her in front of several hundred people at the Home Performance of our performing gymnastics team. I have a video of the proposal that I'll add here in the future. I worked out the plan with the team, the Dean of my dorm, and my best friend, David Stuart.
With a microphone, I went out onto the mat and called up three friends (those two and Karen). I put Karen in the middle, and we blindfolded all three. As soon as Karen got blindfolded, the other two sat down. I quickly slipped on a Tuxedo printed T-shirt over my gymnastics shirt and knelt down in front of her, and took her hand. When a fellow gymnast removed her blindfold, I said, "I talked to your parents, and I talked to my parents, and they said it was okay with them if it was okay with you..." The crowd went nuts. It was at this moment that I think it clicked in her head what was going on. She was sincerely surprised. After getting the crowd to settle back down, I asked, "Will you marry me?" Again, the crowd went nuts.
Now, at this point, I want to say that my very shy girlfriend does not like to be put on the spot, and I knew this would be a little embarrassing for her, but I knew it was unique, memorable, and was on video. I also knew that we had talked many times about getting married and she was just waiting for me to ask her, and we both wanted it to be memorable and not sporadic. So I knew she would say "Yes," but I didn't know how embarrassing this would be for her since she wasn't expecting it to happen in front of hundreds and hundreds of people.
I put the mic in front of her, and she couldn't speak. She just sat there, stunned. The crowd lost it again! Their laughter and cheering made things worse for her. I had to get the crowd to calm down, and when they did, once again she couldn't speak...I was now getting embarrassed because I had already popped the question, and I knew she'd say yes, but she wasn't talking, so it looked really bad! Oh my. Then she finally said, "Okay, I will." It was a relief for everyone, and the crowd cheered! I then said something like, "Ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to introduce you to my fiancé, Karen Revheim." and I kissed her. She was still a bit shocked with a huge smile plastered on, so I ended up kissing a row full of teeth. But it was official.
Wedding
Although our home church was in St. Helena, CA, we decided to get married not too far away in a church in Napa, CA, because it was prettier inside.
She wanted two maids of honor so I had two best men. It was a really nice service and we both wore white. When it came time to kiss the bride, I turned to my first best man (David), who then turned to the next (Brett), who turned to the next groomsman, and the next until someone pulled out a small canister of breath spray and passed it back up to me. I sprayed it in my mouth before kissing Karen. What I didn't realize was that they put soap in the end of the spray container...I never noticed.
Her brothers paid for the reception (both of her parents had passed away by the time we had the wedding). We had a plan to not tell anyone except our best man about where we were staying that night (flying out to Hawaii 2 days after the wedding) so we had an elaborate escape plan where we'd stop on a divided road, climb over the barrier and get into a car heading back the other direction. But our accomplice in the other car made a bad mistake where she parked and it was an easy U-turn just 100 years ahead for anyone chasing us! We got to our fancy hotel in St. Helena and David decided to play a joke on us by not bringing us dinner since he knew we wouldn't "start the honeymoon" until after he showed up...so he never showed up. Luckily we contacted my Aunt who brought us a nice dinner.
Our honeymoon in Kauai was very romantic, fun, and exciting since we'd never been on a trip like that. I sold my 1977 Honda Civic to pay for the honeymoon. We shared her car during our fist year of marriage as I worked mostly from home and she was a college senior who could walk to class.
The flights to Hawaii and back were just before they disallowed smoking on airplanes, and we ended up sitting in the non-smoking (forward) section of the plane with the smoking section directly behind us. Kinda laughable now, but it was pretty smoky anyway.
Lots of fun stories about our honeymoon (crab beach, avocados, geckos, etc), but I'll keep those only within the family.
First Homes
Because we got married two weeks after I graduated from college (PUC-1986) and she had another year before she could graduate, we lived in married student housing on campus in Angwin, CA, and my programming business/job occurred at a desk in our bedroom.
After she graduated, I took a job at Adventist Health in Roseville, CA, and we moved into a Fair Oaks apartment for a short time. That was interesting. We could walk down the short road to the American River, and we enjoyed the swimming pool too, but not the downstairs neighbors who constantly smoked on their patio, which whiffed into our living room anytime the sliding door was open. Soon after that, we bought a little halfplex in Roseville and my side business had its own office (the 2nd bedroom). Not long after that, we suddenly had 4 children living with us, so it was a blessing we had that extra bedroom!
Shortly after the newlywed season was over, we suddenly had four children living with us, ages 3 to 11 (one boy, the youngest). Karen's sister had some serious issues, and we needed to step in and keep her children out of foster care. It was supposed to only be for 6 months so Karen didn't have to twist my arm very much...besides, I enjoyed adventures.
They came with some challenging baggage that we were unaware of. I have said, "We were young enough and dumb enough to do it, and it worked." There was some drama along the way, but I'm proud to say that we later ended up adopting these four children...our four children. They happily welcomed our three birth children that came along later, and all seven were very close growing up. They remain very close today.
It's said that "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree," and in many ways that is true. But I can attest that 6 of the 7 have had their own children so far, and they are all FANTASTIC parents and fun aunts/uncles for each other's kids! The four adopted kiddos have broken the cycle of bad parenting they received before we brought them into our home. Karen and I are so pleased with how they've turned out and how they parent their own children.
You can read how we ended up with seven children above.
Six of our seven children have now had their own children. That means that Karen and I have FOURTEEN grandchildren! ...so far. We could be great-grandparents within a few years too.
Our grandchildren are amazing. We love hanging out with them and having them over. We do have to admit that we are amazed, realizing that we must have had incredible energy back when we were in our twenties and thirties, because we get so worn out with the grandchildren! We love it but our stamina is definitely much less than it used to be.
The Footprints in the Sand
I have a pretty strong faith and the older I get, the more I am amazed at the miracles (a few were real miracles) that took place to put me where I am right now in this world. If you're not familiar with the poem, "Footprints in the Sand," I encourage you to expand the section below and read it. It explains what I mean.
How I ended up marrying Karen is truly one of those amazing chapters. You can read about that in a section above.
How I ended up going to college was truly a miracle because I had to be extremely brave and follow my heart even though it caused significant (SIGNIFICANT) stress during that part of my life and at one point, I was lost, defeated, and questioning God heavily.
The events that had to take place to cause me to leave an incredible corporate job that I loved, to start and operate a new restaurant, helped me start down a completely different path that I would have never attempted otherwise.
I'll add more here over time, but I want to start this section because it is a significant theme in my life.
Footprints in the Sand
One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.
After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.
This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You'd walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."
He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
My Heart was Setting the Stage
I was accepted to the Air Force Academy, and I received congressional approval and a general who sponsored me. This whole ordeal was decided for me, by my father, and I went along with it because I felt I had no other options.
During my senior year of high school, I was very involved in our church's Youth group and was moved spiritually to dig deeper into answers I've always had as a child growing up in public school. If God created here on Earth in seven days, then how does that mesh with the Big Bang Theory I was taught in school? They logically didn't mesh in my mind, and I wanted to know more about Scientific Creation, as I heard there was interesting evidence I was not taught in public school.
I had the wrong kind of friends in high school, and their focus on partying was bothering me. I was torn inside because I wanted to have friends, but I didn't like what they were doing, and I was not comfortable in those situations. I was close to giving in, but the weekly Youth group was a grounding experience that really caused me to internally battle about my decisions and how they might affect the rest of my life.
I had a few young adult friends in the group (especially Mark B) who made big mistakes and talked openly about their regrets. My Youth leader, Gregg Stutchman, had a profound influence on me as he was never judgmental and was always...always loving to all of us. I had never met anyone like that. He had all kinds of challenges, but was still amazing all my life, up until his death in 2024.
I had a front-row seat and saw what military life was like in MY small world of stress. My dad was gone for a year at a time, and he wasn't kind or loving when he was home. I didn't trust that he was being faithful to his marriage (evidence later confirmed that). I didn't like the few military friends I knew through him, and I didn't like how they treated their wives or children (very domineering, and either very ridiculously strict or didn't care at all). I certainly didn't like how I was being treated at home.
I became convinced that if "I" did enter the military, in my current mental situation, I would likely change for the worse as the discipline process would break me down and I'd have to focus on getting through the academy and the seeds that were sprouting in my heart would likely get trampled as I focused on other things. I did not want to be like the few military dads I knew well. I didn't like how they treated their wives or children. I know this isn't necessarily a generality, but in my small world at that time, it was weighing heavily on my mind.
QUICK DISCLAIMER: I am absolutely a big supporter of our military, and the men and women who serve (and served) our country. Nothing in my decision ever lessened my support for those who serve us all. I understood the sacrifice, and I appreciated it. My youngest sister and brother are both retired USAF Master Sergeants, and I couldn't be more proud of them. I was also proud of my father's service. He often told me that the military straightened him out because his life's direction wasn't good. I also know there are many great military dads out there, but back when I was only 18 years old, I hadn't met any of them.
My heart was aching. I felt strongly that I was at a critical fork in the road for my current situation at this point in my life.
My Decision Not to Go
In just a few days, I would be at the point of no return. I don't recall the details, but I was approaching the "2 week" period before I would be officially committed and could not back out without serious consequences. My stress level started increasing because I needed to either commit to it or find a way to back out.
Through a lot of prayer and some private tears, I finally felt absolutely convicted that I should attend Pacific Union College (a nearby private Christian college) instead, so I could set the course of my life the way I felt God was leading me.
Quick interjection: These courses of events all had to take place in order for the right doors to open and close. Without them, I would have never married Karen or had our 7 children, etc. At this point in my life, I KNEW in my heart that there was a plan for my life and the Academy was not part of that plan. I couldn't explain it, but I absolutely knew it...I could FEEL it.
I first talked to Mom. She seemed to understand but she said that Dad was going to be really angry. I knew she didn't have a say in this because...well...it was Dad that made the decision I was going to the academy.
I mustered all the strength I could gather and decided to tell him in front of Mom in hopes that she could keep him from killing me (I wasn't ever fearful of physical abuse, especially at this point in my life, but this would definitely anger him because he set this all up).
Luckily, I don't remember a lot of the details about what happened when I told him. I called my mom before writing this and she can't remember the details either. But I do remember that his first reaction was something like, "Oh hell no! You ARE going to the Air Force Academy and that's that!"
I know I explained what I was going through and tried to help him see that my decision was spiritual and a calling in my heart. I'm sure I rehearsed my explanation long before I told him.
I also remember him saying, "Why do you think you need to go to college? I didn't need to go to college. Do you think you're better than me?" Unfortunately, this is how he thought. Now, as a dad myself, I never thought things like that about my children, and I always encouraged them and hoped they would do/be better than me. Looking back, this statement floored me because the USAF Academy IS "going to college." It's a 4-year college that not only provides a bachelor's degree but also provides the military experience that prepares graduates for careers in the USAF as officers instead of "just" enlisted as an airman. I knew that at the time, and I'm certain he knew it too, so I'm guessing I just shut my mouth because it would have only angered him more had I corrected him.
Dad enlisted as an airman and had to medically retire as a Tech Sergeant. It was a big deal to me that he wanted me to go to the USAF Academy. It was an honor in a way and that's why I went along with it since he never seemed to care about me otherwise. He was not the type of father to live vicariously through his children. His comments about "college" never seemed to make sense to me. By the next summer, he went to college to get his criminal justice degree to become a police officer. Honestly, I was proud of him for doing that.
Disowned
My dad disowned me. He was pissed and that was an understatement. He made it clear that I was not going to live at home and that I needed to get out or start paying rent. Yes, he was not very kind to me before this, but after this, he was downright mean, insulting, and made it very hard to be around him.
"You threw away the Academy. What a loser!"
This was very hard to endure. As you'll see below, it gets worse!
My Dreams Shattered! Where is God?
I went up to PUC, the college I felt spiritually drawn to...the college I knew in my heart that was where I needed to be...where I'd grow up. I sat in the admissions office, and they talked about my scholarships and the PELL grant, and some other kind of big grant/scholarship that I earned with my good high school grades. I would have to work hard, but I could swing it, especially if I was willing to take a few college loans the last few years I was there. Oh...and...yeah...my parents would need to sign [some kind of document they had to sign because I was still considered a dependent]. I had to have the signature before they'd enroll me.
Yup, you guessed it. Dad refused to sign anything and refused to let Mom sign anything. I confirmed with PUC, and they said I absolutely had to get their signatures to attend. I begged. I pleaded. I explained how I'd take care of all costs, and they didn't have to pay anything. Dad refused, and I knew he wouldn't change his mind.
I could not attend college at PUC! Dad undermined it, and I was stuck. Where was God in all this??? I felt 100% certain He was leading this...up until now. Why did he forsake me? What the heck?!
In desperation, I reached out to Sac State University and a few other colleges I had applied to during my senior year and had gotten accepted, but never followed up on because I was going to Academy. But it was late in the summer and most of the schools either closed registration or already started courses. I'd have to wait until the next semester or year.
I couldn't wait, I had to get out of the house.
DeVry Institute of Technology
I had to get out of the house before I was kicked out or before I went crazy because I couldn't handle the verbal abuse at home. In desperation, I responded to an ad from the DeVry Institute of Technology in Phoenix, Arizona. I would get a computer science degree there. Clearly, God didn't care about me, so I might as well at least get away from home and do it myself.
Two weeks...this time period repeats itself a few times. Two weeks before I had to make the first non-refundable deposit and arrange transportation, I talked with my new roommate on the phone. He lived in LA and was new to American, from China, and had a heavy accent. I was okay with that, but during the phone call, it became crystal clear that he was a heavy partier. He talked about the wild parties we'd have and the girls we'd pick up. He said all the exact right things to make me realize it was not what my heart wanted for me. Sure, it was tempting, but it wasn't what I needed in my life at that time. I called the school the next day and tried desperately to get a new roommate. They would only give me a room to myself and that would cost more than I could afford. I also wasn't guaranteed a job (their campus jobs were all filled/taken by the time I registered), and if I couldn't land one in town, I'd soon be broke.
I prayed to a God that I felt was ignoring me to help me make the right decision. My heart said this wasn't for me. I called the school back and cancelled my registration. I cried in frustration. This took place on a Thursday afternoon. I told my parents. Dad launched into a HUGE "What a loser" tirade. That night and most of the day on Friday, he was absolutely horrible...really, really horrible.
It was too late to go to the USAF Academy (deadline passed) and now I've backed out of the only option I could find. My options were shrinking fast.
My Escape Plan: Enlisting in the Air Force
My options in my mind were being homeless or couch-hopping with relatives because I had to leave home soon. I couldn't handle the mental and verbal abuse. Clearly God didn't care. He wouldn't open any doors.
That Friday afternoon, I decided to enlist in the Air Force as an airman. I could have been an officer, but God closed those doors without opening anything better. I called the recruiter and he set up a time Monday afternooon.
One Last Frivolous Move in My Mind
That Friday night, I went to the Vespers program at church for the youth group. The Youth leader pulled me aside and asked how it was going. I explained how God seems to have failed me and that I'm at the end of my rope and have decided to enlist so I can just get out of the house because my dad was being so difficult. I wanted to get as far away as I could.
I asked him if he'd be willing to drive me to the recruiter's office Monday afternoon because I didn't want my dad to take me. He paused for a long time, almost as if he was praying with his eyes open. Then he agreed to take me. He put his hands on my shoulders and looked me in the eyes and said, "I'll take you if you'll do something for me that morning. I want you to first ride with me back up to PUC so we can meet with the Admissions office one more time before going to the recruiter office." I said that it was pointless because I had to have my parents sign something in order to receive an important part of my grant funding and there's no way they'll do it. I said it's a huge waste of time but I'm willing to ride along.
Side Note: PUC was still on a quarter system back then and was, for some reason, one of the latest-starting colleges that year. They started a few weeks after the other universities started. This was weird but is an important point.
He then did something that I thought was really uncomfortable, he got all the Youth together and they prayed for me. I felt bad that their prayer would turn into a letdown about God because they'll all see that He doesn't answer prayers like that. I remember feeling bad about that wasted prayer.
The MIRACLE
As we rode to the college, I dumped on him about how angry I was at God because I sincerely felt He was leading me, but then only allowed everything to crash around me. And now here I am running away from home via the military.
As we entered the Admissions Office, I was embarrassed that I'd have to go through the "We already told you that you can't come here without those signatures," conversation again.
But as we talked, they gave me a few documents to sign. I said my parents wouldn't sign. They said that these documents didn't need their signatures because I was 18 years old. I said they were for the grants. They said I wouldn't need the grants. What? I was so confused.
[Honestly, I'm shedding tears as I type this part of the story. I can rarely tell it in person without breaking down.]
They explained that someone paid the price of my tuition....WHAT?! Who? They said it was an anonymous person who wanted me to attend. I knew it wasn't my youth leader because he was rather poor himself. No one would tell me who this person was.
Seriously? Yes, it was true. If I signed these papers, I could start classes in 2 weeks!
I had to work my butt off to pay for car repairs, food, books, etc. but my tuition was taken care of for that first year! There's more to this story, but this unexpected gift absolutely changed the course of my life at a critical time.
Read the Footprints in the Sand poem above! My experience at Pacific Union College changed my life, deepened my faith, and built my relationship with my future spouse. I grew up in college in an environment that helped me avoid the dangers I struggled with in high school. My friends were awesome. My education was incredible.
God is indeed real to me, and I've experienced more than one miracle...but this was one of the most life-changing. My dad and I talked about it many years later, and he agreed with me that it was a miracle and a good decision. It was nice to have closure with him as well.

Contact Scott Alvord
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